Forgiveness. It’s elusive. It’s complex. It’s deep.
So deep that some drown in the pursuit of it, flailing about, gasping for air, hoping to receive it. And they perish for the lack of knowledge that they already have it and it’s available to us all.
We hold onto forgiveness like collateral, withholding this precious resource from someone in a compromised position. And we grasp it ever tighter from those who are closest to us, who betray our trust and our love.
We place it in our forgiveness bank, racking up interest daily, compounding it with bitterness and loathing. And it builds and builds, gaining weight and size spreading throughout our lives, enlarging its territory.
Because the one who hurt us took something from us…our pride, our trust, our self-esteem, our money, our property, our hope or maybe even our loved one. And we need to hold onto something that we’re positive they can never take away. If we give it up, we’ll have nothing.
So we keep the upper hand, with our full forgiveness bank, which we don’t realize is our heart. And our heart is full to capacity. Our arteries are clogged, our beat is erratic and our blood supply is deeply diminished. And we still think we’re winning…but we’re not, because heaviness on the heart is never good for us and the weight of unforgiveness is immeasurable.
So isn’t it time to make some withdrawals from our forgiveness stash? Why not find those we’re withholding it from and drop the “F” bomb on them. Blow up the bitterness and destroy the damage. Take a weight off ourselves and lighten our load. Improve our health, our heart and our life.
We don’t have to allow them back in our life or be in relationship with them again. In fact, they’ve likely forgotten what they did and moved on. The favor we’ll be doing is for ourselves. It’s a win-win. And best of all…it won’t cost us a thing.
Ask yourself today… If Forgiveness is Free, why are you saving it?
Forgiveness is Free…Why are you Saving It is the upcoming book by April Randolph, available everywhere soon.